Hi Brothas! This week's blog comes during a vital time as the world is in a pandemic and racial ravaging against black lives. About a month or so ago, as I was praying and meditating on my blog topics/titles, and this just so happen to be one that came to mind, "Black Brotha, I Love Ya." Now, with all that has happened with George Floyd's senseless and hurtful murder, it hits different for particular reasons; yeah, this hurts. But, I had to quickly pull this topic out to share with my Beautiful Black Brothas. I know, you're probably thinking, "Demetria, what does this topic have to do with singleness"? Well, to answer your question, this topic stirs up a massive pot of LOVE that spills over for our black brothas everywhere. They are our men, fathers, brothers, sons, nephews, uncles, grandfathers, God-fathers, God-brothers, cousins, neighbors, friends, husbands, and significant others. To my sistas that have a black brotha in your life who plays any of those roles, share this blog with them. I want to encourage and remind them that they are necessary! I am inspired to talk to you, brothas, and hopefully shine some light in your life. If you don't mind, throughout this blog, I want to address you, my black brothas, as my BB's to shorten this read somewhat because I can get all into it, and I don't want this to pose as a movie script. LOL! So, what's up, my BB! What's good?! There are some things that I will share and express to you from my heart. As a father, you are a strong force that binds and glues your family together. You are the protector. We need you to do what you are supposed to do. You have the strength to take on your role with power. You carry a title and role that is significant and tailor-made just for you. Your sons and daughters look up to you. You set the example for generations to come. You even have what it takes to break generational curses. You hold the keys to take your family out of bondage. You even have the tenderness in your heart to raise a family on your own with God's help; yes, single father, you have what it takes. I see you making it happen, doing your very best, and making changes and signature moves. So, to my BB's who are fathers, I empower you to take your power back, and embrace it, because can't nobody take that from you! To my BB's who are our brothers, you are our sidekicks, our buddy, and our best friend! We grew up together, got into mischief together. You make us laugh, and you make us smile; yes, you even make us mad sometimes, but we love you! LOL! We need you, brother. You have what it takes to make it in this crooked and evil world. As soon as you realize what you were created to do and become, you will do great and beautiful things. Please ignore the stereotypes, stigmas, and labels because you are none of the above, especially when you prove them wrong. See, we know oh' so well that "the devil is a liar," so when he says you're not something, you are that, when he tells you are something, you are not that. Yeah, bruh, that's how you prove them wrong, yes them, anyone who looks down on you other than to take you by the hand and help pick you up. So my BB's who are brothers, we, your siblings, need you to survive because you are essential to us. Keep your head up! To my BB's who are sons and future sons (praying someday), we love you! You are the apple of our eyes—the promises God made to us and our dream come true. You are the gift that God gave to us, and we gave you back to God as we honor him for giving us you. You have what it takes to make it in this life and become all that you aspire, and all that God intends. My BB's who are sons, you are successful, you are a beautiful creation, and God has created you in His image, so make Him proud by honoring Him and striving to please Him daily. You are our legacy. Rise, brother, and take your place as sons of God. To my BB's who are nephews, you are the family that we treat as our son or brother. We need you to survive also. You hold a special place in our hearts because you are our brother or our sisters' child, and just like our own child, we take you in, care for you, nurture you, and for some, even raise you as our very own. Nephew, we love you. Keep your head up and know your worth in this life. To my BB's who are uncles, I say to you, hey Unk! You see, that's what we say so affectionately when we see you at the family gathering. Unk, you make us laugh, you make the best Barbecue, fry the best fish, give us money to go to the store and get whatever we want, and you care for us just like dad would. We love the stories you share with us about teedy messing with you and about your childhood memories with our mom/dad. We also love when you tell us jokes. LOL! Unk, we need you to survive also. As mom/dad's brother, you hold a special place in our hearts unk; we love you, sir! To my BB's who are Grandfathers, you don't know how much you mean to us or perhaps, you do. This one here starts the waterworks in my eyes because I once had a grandfather who loved my brother and me unconditionally. I mean, paw-paw was the man. He spoiled us just as much as he spoiled momma and daddy. Grandfather, you are the patriarch of our family. You hold that extraordinary place in our hearts. You raised our mommas, daddies, uncles, aunts, cousins, and even some of our friends. You wear many hats, literally, and this is why we honor you and love you so much. I mean, the stories you've shared throughout generations are so profound, so rich, and so necessary that we must share with generations to come. We understand now more than ever the struggles you had to endure, but you made it out. Paw-Paw, Grand-father, Grand-dad, Popee, we are grateful for you and thank God for you. We cherish every moment with you, now and forever! To our grandfathers who has gone on before us, we miss you so much! To all the rest of my BB's who hold the titles as God-fathers, God-brothers, cousins, neighbors, friends, we love you too. Even if your roles in our lives are different, you still hold a special place in our hearts. We love you!
Now, as I bring this blog to a close, I want to very specifically talk to my SINGLE BB's and MARRIED BB's. You are our lovers and best friends. You are a beautiful soul and soldier in love and war. You are ours, and powerful you are. You see, though, all of these roles mentioned don't compare to who you are, which is a son of God. Yes, brotha, you, you are royalty! You are what some (we know who "some" is) despise and wish they were; yeah, you know the "they" I am referring to. But don't hold your head down, don't walk in fear, pity, guilt, nor shame, because you are an intense build of you and the father who created you made you unique and one of a kind. You're a fantastic creation molded uniquely in the hands of our father. You are not a limited edition, you are a priceless gift. My beautiful, handsome, good-looking, God-fearing, successful, sophisticated, passionate, intelligent, skillful, talented, dapper, classic man that I so affectionately call my Black Brothas; keep loving, living, surviving, and making it through. We are all in this together, we have your back, and we love you! You lead as we love! To my sistas, girl, I know they get on our last good nerve at times. I mean, they do it well too chile.... & it doesn't even matter the role they play either. LOL! Sis, whether you are dating a brotha, in a relationship with or married to a brotha, encourage him, empower him, uplift him, love him, pray with and for him. Don't use him to get what you want out of him or from him. Please don't cheat on him. If you don't want him, tell him. Sure it might break his heart, but hopefully he will heal. Nurture him when he needs you and appreciate him. Sistas, all of our brothas aren't dogs, losers, lost causes, disgraces, cheaters, abusers, users, low down, down low, no- good, etc. Let's not always be a fan to those who are often bitter. Let's not always hi-five those who are quick to adopt a stereotype about our brothas attaching it throughout generations. Sistas, let's not give up on our brothas. Because if we do, other than God himself, who will they have to lean on Sistas? We've become their friend, best friend, significant other, or wife to some of these brothas. Let's be their backbone, especially when their backs are up against the wall, and the weight of the world seems to be on their shoulders. Let's not push them away because of past pressures and pain we have gone through and even they've endured and experienced. They hurt, get played, get used, and abused too, so don't always be so quick to turn the flashlight on you. It doesn't always have to be a "woe is me" moment, instead hear them out, let them speak, vent, hear their hurt, nurture their heart, and try to listen because sometimes, that's all they need. Motivate them to communicate more, and encourage them to open up instead of bottling things up because we all need someone to talk to at times. Please try not to judge a book by its' cover. Some books will never be read until they've been opened, meaning you might pass up a great man who can potentially become your friend, husband, or whatever God's intentions are for that man in your life if your perceptions are off and wrong. Now listen, i'm not saying to be desperate, sis, but hear him out because he might be someone God placed in your life to help, encourage, and minister to along the way. Every guy you meet is not always meant to be the one you call your own. He could be a seasonal assignment from God because you might have the necessary tools to help him in his plight and, most importantly, offer Christ to Him. All brothas aren't the same, sis. Don't remain in the bitter batter, but tell them they matter! They ALL matter! Black Brothas Matter! Black sistas, oh' yes, we matter too! Let's support them, sis, and continue to empower them, even when they get on our last nerve! LOL! I love you, my Black Brothas. My mission and purpose in this blog have been to encourage and empower you. Therefore, I hope that I have accomplished my mission. A prayer for my brothas: Lord, thank you for creating man in your beautiful image. I cover my brothas today and every day. Lord, help them to see the potential, purpose and calling in themselves that you see in them. Lord, grant them peace that surpasses all understanding. Lord help them to embrace their passions and pursuits with power. Teach them your ways and make them what you want them to be. Mold them into the man you have created them to be. Lord, guide them, lead them and provide for them. Mold them to be the best friends, husbands, lifetime partners, fathers and leaders that we need them to be. Most of all, protect them from hurt, harm, and dangers both seen and unseen. When the world and others have counted them out, Lord, we know that you've already counted them in. Please help them to stand firm in a world that tries to weaken their abilities and strengths. Please enable them to triumph over things and people who try to diminish and deplete the willpower that lives within them. Please help them to recognize their potential and grit you've given them to possess. Lord, I pray that they will have faith to move mountains, and I pray that their confidence level will continue to grow throughout every test and trial. Protect them from the snare of the enemy. I pray as you've promised that no weapon formed against them will prosper. Lord, teach them how to pray and trust you. Lord, those who have developed prayer life activate a more incredible passion for prayer on another level. Lord, I pray they will have visions that will be birthed into purpose. Lord, help them to trust you like never before. Lord, help them even to embrace their singleness. Help them not to give up on love and life. I pray that you will teach them how to be fathers, husbands, leaders, and powerful men of God. I pray according to Psalm 37:4 that you will grant them the desires of their heart as they delight themselves in you. Lord, heal their hurt and pain. Wrap up their wounds with your healing power. I pray, my black brotha, that you will know your worth because to me, your worth is priceless. In Jesus' name, Amen.
Much love, peace, and blessings,
Demetria
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