Counterfiets... yeah... the fake, not real, or genuine ones. This blog topic will expose warning and vigilance in your season of singleness. What is a counterfiet? As I researched the accurate definition of this word, it means "made in exact imitation of something valuable or important with the intention to deceive or defraud." A counterfiet is fake, foney, and of fraudulence. In this blog, we will discuss counterfiet people we may have met, be-friended, or were committied to in some way whether it be a relationship, an engagement leading up to marriage, or actual marriage life. Okay, so I will openly expose some examples of what I know first hand to be a counterfeit. It is my prayer that if you are connected to or may meet a counterfiet at some point in your life, you will now know how to identify one as such.
Now before we proceed, this is not meant to have you paranoid and looking for counterfiet characteristics in someone like inspector gadget, LOL! This is only to help you become aware if something just doesn't seem right with an individual. As the queen of soul Aretha Franklin once said, "let me put you up on game". When meeting someone for the first time, conversing back and forth with them and feel that something "just isn't right" you're not feeling that this person isn't being honest with you, or they go overboard trying to impress you, chances are, you may be right and in believing he/she "just isn't right". He/she might be a COUNTERFIET. When in a relationship whether it be new, or one of committment, there can also be some counterfiet characteristics there within someome. For instance, in a new relationship, if it's moving too fast and you or the person you are in relationship with is already talking marriage and kids, wait a minute, pump your brakes because there may be something underlying that may have another motive to get you to fill a void that only God can fill in that moment/season and as a result you make that commitment because you have been persuaded several times that you are that person's wife or husband so soon, with no ring or actions proven to even withhold such a title. This comes by way of counterfiet characteristics that before hand you did not recognize or even knew what to identify it as, but now you know or perhaps you knew way before but you second guessed yourself over and over again while continuing in the relationship. My mom always tells me, "first mind Gods' mind, second mind devils' mind". I would always laugh at her when she would tell me this because it just sounded so made up, but she was right most of the time! What she really meant is that all of the second guessing can trip you up and cause confusion. The bible says "but seek ye first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all of these things shall be added unto you". Matthew 6:33. One of my college professors told us in class one evening that when we are taking tests and the first answer we select is usually the right one. It goes like this, there are neurons in our brain that tells us our strongest answer, when we go against it trying to overthink it, we end up being inaccurate. Another time this came to me was when I was in a professional development meeting and my former supervisior/principal said that "when in doubt, don't do it". So at this point, the light came on. I get it now! It makes sense to me when in other times, re-thinked and over-thinked things.. and situations would turn out as my initial thought percieved.
Have you ever experienced those old boyfriends, girlfriends, those who were once interested in you popping up out of the blue when you've decided that you're gonna move on, live out your singleness for you, and commit to God? Well, I've been there... and even experienced random males whom sought interest in me, some of which I just knew right away were straight up counterfeits and it would just igg me (if that's even a word, LOL!) You see, you have to be mindful of familiar patterns and Satan's objectives, tricks, plots, & schemes to keep you from moving forward & victoriously in your singleness by placing certain people in your life only to get you off guard and to ultimately settle... but keep this in mind, if you know who you are what you want... you'll be able to spot a counterfeit head on... you will even be able to identify a counterfeit person like the cashier identifies someone trying to pay with counterfeit bills. When he/she holds that bill up to the light, right away they can tell if it's counterfeit.
Be careful of who and what you entertain, whether your intentions are to just be nice at befriending someone or to intentionally seek love when you should really be seeking God as you wait to meet him/her. Play it smart, and as my former Principal/Supervisor said to my collegues and I in a meeting "when in doubt, don't do it". Counterfiets come in all colors, shapes, and sizes, and may even falsely hold an impressive title. They might even be someone you've known for a while and you know nothing is there between the two of you. It can also be someone you once dated or was in a relationship and either you or them has moved on, gotten married and all of a sudden, they feel the need to want you back. Hurry up and dismiss them right away, because that's out of order and before God can make a move in your life and Bless you with your desires, you have to remove yourself from them and let them know that you are not gonna allow them to play those unfaithful games with you. Before you fall, if it don't feel right, acknowledge what you feel by saving yourself from taking that fall. On this single journey you will have moments when you become anxious and interested in random people, but as my pastor says, "The Holy Spirit leads & guides, but Satan forces". That's when you have to know the difference. The word of God tells us in Philippians 4:6-7 "Be careful (anxious) for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. 7. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus." Tell God your requests, and WAIT on Him to present your blessings/desires to you in His timing. God has not forgotten you, He just knows the perfect time and when He blesses you, it's going to be real, nothing counterfeit. Your mate is going to be the real thing, like Coca Cola! LOL! I don't like Coke, but there are some people that love Coke and will not drink a cheap, no-name brand counterfeit Coke, they would much rather the real deal. So WAIT on your real thing and stay away from the counterfiet thangs! Wait on your Coke & don't waste time with a Joke, LOL! I hope you've been encouraged and laughed a bit reading this blog.
Much love, peace, and blessings,
Demetria "MeMe" Henry
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