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Writer's pictureDemetria "MeMe" Henry

Is My Type The Reason I'm Still Single?

Updated: Mar 28, 2021


Hi, I hope all is well with you. This week's blog topic is pretty cool because it addresses what many of us singles deal with, identifying what "our type" is in a mate. As singles, we often think about the type of mate we want. We write that list and decide at some point that if what's on our list hasn't been fully exhausted, and we don't see what we desire to in someone we meet, then they might not be the one. Most often, though, we already know what we want our mates to look like, talk like, walk, and live. When we get all of what we wanted, and things began to go left, we wonder what happened? We tend to have a habit of sticking to one type of person. I don't have the time to list the types. After all, that can vary. However, let's stick to physical appearance since that is what draws attraction. As women our type can be, a beautiful million-dollar smile with perfect teeth, a particular complexion, tall a dark and handsome, tall and light-skinned, hefty fine with a 6-pack, great legs, tall and slim, short and built, pretty eyes, dreads, bearded and bald, etc. Men, let's be honest, most of you are attracted to the derriere. Lol! smile, legs, eyes, curves, short and petite, tall and slim (or slim fine as all of you would say), heavy ( or thick as all of you would say). Your type could have everything to do with how someone carries themselves. Your type can also be someone you develop chemistry with over time. You know what you like. However, what if your type is why you are still single or can't meet the right one? In your mind, your type is all you are attracted to, and you don't see yourself attracting anyone else?

Sometimes, what we are often attracted to can be the reason why we are still single. What if you've been passing up the one God has genuinely ordained for you because you keep looking back at the same type of person. Your type can be one reason you are still single because you haven't learned how to weigh your options. I'm not saying to treat this thing as a try-on-trial. Instead, I don't pass up the nice guy who approached you most respectfully for the thuggish ruggish bone type of guy all because you are attracted to one kind. Fellas, don't pass up the lady with the small frame for the one with the junk in her trunk because sometimes there's junk in other areas too. Don't always be so fixated on one type. Your type might be the reason why you need to consider another type (hopefully God-fearing first). I just had to throw that out there, I mean, you know, for those of us who are Christians and dating, LOL! Keep in mind, though. My blogs are for singles from every walk of life. I will never target just one "type." Do you see what I just did there? LOL!


However, I'm not saying that you're wrong with being attracted to a certain kind of person or appearance. Honestly, that's how it all starts. Still, when you develop an "I only date one kind of person" attitude, then you can easily pass up your blessing. We tend to forget that attraction isn't only physical appearance; it's much more to it than that. Attraction is also personality, character, lifestyle, beliefs, and morals. So I ask you to think about what your type is and not just the physical. Your kind can also be unintentional, meaning that you attract a type of person. I can remember at one time, and I would date musicians/guys in church, which were just a few.


However, I realized an unintentional attraction to these types of guys and them to me. Still, because I spent a lot of time in church and most often in the music ministry, I attracted musicians/guys on the church scene. I hooked up with someone tall, dark & handsome. I thought I struck gold, but in all actuality, later on, that gold was only gold-plated, and eventually, it rusted. He just wasn't the one for me, and I won't detail because I don't want to expose anybody but know that my type then sent me through it. However, now, chile, I know what I want, and I can tell you it's not someone on the church scene, someone who has a musician status or talk dark and handsome. I'm so over it, LOL! Don't get me wrong. I like what I like now, but I'm not hard-pressed on those types anymore. I am older, wiser, and open to whomever God has ordained for my attraction and all.


I say to you if an opportunity to date comes. It seems to be someone different from what you're used to dating. Give them a chance, and explore the possibilities of dating someone opposite of your type. I am saying that don't get stuck on staying fixed on your same ole' type. However, if you end up dating your kind and it works out for the long haul, then you've been blessed! LOL! I know couples who are successfully married today who dated someone who wasn't their type or who they never imagined themselves dating let alone marrying. So yeah, it happens, and it works out, but I say, to each his own, and we all have the free will to choose whom we may even when God leads and directs us, we still have to make the decision ultimately. So, I ask you, what's your type? I'm trying to see something. I'm nosey; Nah, I'm just playing, LOL! I'm out. There wasn't much to discuss in this week's blog. This one was simple and straight to the point. Besides, I want to open up a discussion about this topic, so if there are some things you'd like to add or take away, feel free to share below in the comments section. I hope that you've enjoyed reading today.

Much love, peace & blessings,

Demetria "MeMe"

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I'm so glad you received confirmation! 💖🙏🏾

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Sharon Trainor
Sharon Trainor
Jun 20, 2020

Confirmation

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denise henry
denise henry
Jun 14, 2020

Always remember to pray and ask God for your mate and you will never go wrong. Well spoken my daughter 🥰

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