Hey you guys! Did you enjoy last week's topic? I hope you enjoyed it and was inspired and encouraged. Well, in this blog we will continue discussing dating but we will focus on meeting potential mates online Vs. meeting potential mates the old school way. Now, let me get this out of the way now, I am old school. Periodt pooh! LOL! I'd rather meet someone the old school way because I don't have the time nor patience to go on a hunt to hopefully meet someone on dating sites. I know some of you might be online and on those dating App due to this pandemic (which is safer right now) LOL! Now, I don't have anything against online dating sites & apps, however, it's just not for me. I tried dating sites once and it was the weirdest thing I had ever attempted to try. Yes, I tried ChristianMingle.com (just in case you were wondering) LOL! I could not deal with sitting at a computer meeting different guys, asking questions, adressing concerns, and basically trying to take all the data I could. Taking data of different people can get confusing. Let's talk a little about online dating. Now, online dating isn't such a bad thing and I'm not against it I just prefer to meet someone the old school way, just out and about and boom, meet someone as I'm minding my business Lol! But nowadays, some are in such a hurry and so desperate to hopefully find the one online. "Online dating is efficient. We're a fast food society and now you have a pool of eligible people to choose from." ~Gail Barsky~. It's like some people think that online dating is like placing an order for a meal via online. It's risky because while the person might claim to have the interests you are looking for, there can also be somethings that you are not expecting. Just like when you place an order for exactly what you want from a menu and when your food gets to you, somethings wrong with it, & it's just not what you expected.
Dating online can be fun also, depending on whether or not you're just on there to pick up dates or in pursuit of finding your mate. However, when dating online, it is wise to be careful before setting dates with someone so soon because the last thing you'd want to do is get involved with a psychopath... or if you're old school dating in person you still might wanna be careful with that because the way this virus is set up... I mean... you know it's just not safe to be all hugged up right now. LOL! Getting back on topic though, there are all... kinds of people on those dating sites so if you're one of those who frequent dating sites just be careful and don't be so anxious to meet someone. Take your time and by all... means take data especially when meeting someone on dating sites. Some are in such a hurry to just be with someone and dating sites/dating apps seem to be the go-to. I've done some research and realized there are so many dating sites. It's like there is a dating site for everyone, and they are set up to grasp the interests of individuals. For instance there is Christian Mingle, Black People Meet, Zoosk, Eharmony, Tinder App, OkCupid App, Matchmaker.com, Manhunt, Farmersonly.com, Speeddate.com, Perfectmatch.com, POF, Etc. Wayyyy to many to name... I quit! LOL! But you get it... & then some of them you have to pay a membership fee? I'm thinking like I have to pay to meet someone that might potentially date? So later on if we are successful at building a relationship and marry, then I can say I paid for you! I'm joking... LOL! But if I can't meet you for free then you "aint" for me. LOL! I've only played around with Christain Mingle just to see what it was about because I thought it was interesting to actually have a dating site for Christians, but after my research I realized that dating sites just wasn't and will NEVER be a thing for me. Nope, not interested. LOL! However, like I said someone people actually are fortunate enough to find the love of their life via a dating site so I don't knock it for anyone nor you I just would stress for you to be careful and know what you want and are looking for when visiting thesw dating sites. And most of all, try not to meet up too soon, do as much data as you can, pat attention to details, ask questions, address concerns, etc. You don't want to meet peaceful Paul online and in person he's really psychopath Paul. Then you're like, wait, hold up nah, you didn't seem to be like this online and realize that his description (looks and personality) don't match his profile... I mean I don't think you want to be catfished. Just be careful and enjoy it as much as you can but take your time with this things and try not to give too much of yourself so soon. Besides, what's the rush?
Now, let's get into this old school dating. Old school dating for me is where it's at. Meeting someone the old school way nowadays seems wack to some people but it's not. It's what you prefer and feels works for you. My mom and dad met the old school way, boy meets girl and later man marries woman. I like the old school way of interests in someone, when you introduce yourself to them or vice versa, share some detail about you to them and vice versa. That way it's seems more organic and natural rather than waiting at some point to meet this man/woman in person who you met online. It leaves you in a place of anticipation. But old school meeting someone is a bit different because sometimes first impression is everything. I'm not saying that meeting and dating someone the old school way is better than meeting someone online because both can work according to what you are desiring and looking for. So I would say "to each is own".
Whether online or old school, love at first sight or love at first swipe, just be your authentic you. Sometimes first impression goes a long way rather than putting on a facade and portraying a false personality only to get a person to notice you, seek interests in you or you in them.
Much love, peace, & blessings,
Demetria "MeMe"
WAIT.... before you go, I have some questions for you. Please answer in the comments.
1. Do you prefer online dating/apps or old school? Why?
2. Have you ever dated online/dating app?
3. Have you had success in dating online?
4. Do you think old school meeting someone/dating is wack?
5. Did this blog help you to think about or reflect on what's your next approach in dating?
Thanks for reading!
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