Welcome singles! I am so glad that you decided to stop by and join me in our first blog. It's going to be such a good read today.
That's right. I know you see that title. Pray & Wait? What?! I mean, really? Like who has time for this? Now, I remember one time, like way back when-ago (Is that even an accurate word? Never mind) when I was dating, praying, and waiting was far from my mind. It was always whoever I saw as potential, as long as they were "in church," loved God, showed me attention, knew something about love, etc. I was cool with that. Well, it wasn't until three failed relationships when the light came on. It was after that last breakup when I decided that I am tired of the "same ole same ole.'" I was like, hold up, something "ain't" right. I don't understand why I have only been in three relationships throughout the years, all of which lasted three years. Yeah, I know, right?! Like, what is it about these number threes? Readers, If I don't know anything, what I do know is that I need the Father, the Son, and The Holy Spirit to lead and guide me in my next relationship. By the way, I'm not in one yet & I'm not in a rush because God has me right where he wants me, and I'm grateful. LOL! However, I knew that I was spiritually, mentally, and emotionally drained after my very last relationship. I knew that I wasn't ready for a "next relationship." Instead, I needed, wanted, and strongly desired a closer and more intimate relationship with my lover and King Christ Jesus. I just felt that I could do so much better if I gave Him a chance to love me like He wanted to and like no one else could. I knew then that God wanted me to take what I experienced, the good, the bad, the ugly, the sad, and use it all for his glory, all while healing me and teaching me how to pray and wait.
I realized all of those years were giving my time, energy & all of me to a man that I was neglecting true love, fulfillment, and so much more from the man named Jesus. Who better to teach me how to love and give me real love like no one else could? Yup, no one else but Jesus! I mean, I had to realize that this man died for me. So it was time that I indeed yielded and surrendered my all to Him. I needed to be healed and set free from the mistakes, hurt, and soul ties (a topic for another day) I had been carrying for so long. I knew that God would be the only one to come to my rescue, and in all honesty, I so strongly and purposely wanted no one and nothing but Jesus.
So, there I was, feeling some way, living a new lifestyle out of the "norm." I had to decide whether I would embrace it or give into that same ole' "relationship rat-race raggedness" (I know, I just made up a word... LOL!). I had decided that enough was enough. I finally woke up and smelled the coffee (and I don't even like coffee, LOL!). Still, I got some sense, pulled it together, and cried out to God for forgiveness, help, healing, and direction. It was that moment where God had begun the healing process of my past and so much more. I had a great desire for Him and His word. I couldn't get enough of Him!
Although my past experiences, mistakes, failures, and hurts in relationships left me in a bitter and what had only seemed a lonely place, I say all of this to say. I did not want to give up on love. I desired and still desire that best friend/mate/husband He has, especially for me. That's when I got it, that a-ha moment, which was PRAY & WAIT! What? I've never done that so earnestly concerning a relationship. So I realized that this new Pray & Wait lifestyle is something that I have to trust in God. I didn't know how long I would be waiting (and still waiting, I'm good though, sometimes LOL!), but seriously, I knew that God would be working on me and my he, yes my he, my husband. Ha!
So, you ask why Pray & Wait? God has already told us in his word, 1 John 5:14, "This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us." There are so many scriptures in the Bible about prayer. We don't have the time to list all of them. LOL! I encourage you to search those prayer scriptures in your own time of prayer/meditation/study because the Holy Bible has a lot to offer concerning prayer. However, prayer is your direct access to God and faith concerning what you desire, need, and want, not just a mate but also whatever you seek God in your life. Prayer is the key you need to unlock God's blessings and lessons concerning you, your life, and well-being. We should strive to develop a healthy and consistent prayer life anyway. God tells us in 1 Thessalonians 5:17, "Pray without ceasing." We should be praying as often as we can. When you pray, go to Him with thanksgiving first and then talk to God about what is on your heart. Prayer doesn't have to be so eloquent. God wants the real you & if you don't know how to pray, ask God to help you, and He will meet you right where you are and guide you in prayer. You can also write your prayer down. As for me, I am more expressive when I write things down. However, the more you pray, the more your prayer life will develop.
I realized that if I genuinely want what God has for me and who He has for me, I needed to pray and then WAIT! Uh-huh, that's the part that most of us are like, I don't know about the waiting side of this. Praying is marvelous but waiting. I don't know if I have the patience. See, we tend to forget that when we pray to God, He will not always respond right away with an answer. He is God. Therefore He is perfect in all of His ways. Sometimes we have to develop a spirit of waiting. In Hebrews 11:6, "And without faith, it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him."
Let's talk about waiting now. As singles, your waiting process can be the most fulfilling, life-changing, remarkable, wonderful, and lovely experience ever! Waiting gives you time to self-assess. Waiting gives you the blessed and rewarding opportunity to not just be in the wait but be the wait. That's right, be the wait, show others how fulfilling the waiting season can be. Be an example for those around you who struggle during a tough time of singleness and experience a journey on a bumpy single road. God wants to be closest to you in this season of your life. God wants to show you, you. He wants to adorn you with His unmatched love and show you what real love is and so much more. If you can give any old boo a chance, why not give God an opportunity that He so rightfully deserves to be in the first place in your life? God wants to bless you, purify you, heal you, use you, and reveal His perfect plan for your life. He also wants to show your purpose(s) to you in hopes that you will strive to fulfill each one, giving Him all of the glory. God wants to reveal your calling and so much more. He wants to help bring your vision to reality. Your praying and waiting season could be the most gratifying spiritually mature season of your life, but that's if you want it bad enough. So as the saying goes, "how bad do you want it"?
Finally, your praying and waiting season are pruned, molded, formed, healed, and equipped for a greater purpose. It is also to prepare you for who God has for you. Treat this season as a new lifestyle of preparation as you share with God all of you and your desires. He knows what is and who is best for you. Don't be in a hurry to have someone in your face/ear or on your shoulder, etc. Make yourself available to God, make room for Him, and give Him all of you. He should be first and most important in your life. Be intentional about your walk with Him and in Him.
Whew! I've written a lot, huh? LOL! I know, but hey, that's the life and passion of a writer/blogger, LOL! Plus, I love singles! I just wanted to get what I could out of my system concerning this topic and pour out my heart so that I can be a blessing to you and those around you. Well, my friend, that's it for now! Until next time, remember to establish, re-activate and advance your prayer life and to wait for lifestyle.
I will be back next week with our new blog, so stay tuned! ;)
Much love,
Demetria
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Before you leave though, I have a special treat for you! Please listen to the song shared below which blessed me years ago as I was in a confusing relationship trying to figure out what to do... I pray that it also blesses you. PRAY & WAIT on the Lord.
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